Relationship Anxiety & Social Anxiety Therapy For Women

Relationship anxiety and social anxiety can be overwhelming and draining. Worrying about what you said, fearing rejection, or feeling like you don’t measure up can erode your confidence and leave you feeling alone. Trust feels fragile, and when people pull away, it shakes your sense of safety and leaves you uncertain. These struggles can make it hard to connect, causing constant overthinking and emotional exhaustion that impacts every part of your life.

I work with women aged 18 and over across the UK who are facing a range of emotional and mental health challenges, including generalised anxiety, social anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, grief, and stress-related difficulties. These experiences can leave you feeling disconnected, emotionally exhausted, or stuck in patterns that are difficult to shift. In therapy, we will explore the underlying causes of these struggles in a safe, supportive space. Together, we will work on strategies to help you feel more grounded, confident, and secure in both your relationships and your everyday life.

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About me. Spini Watts Counselling | Relationship Therapy for Women Across The UK | London | Merton | Colliers Wood | Mitcham | South West London | Spini Watts Counselling

I am a therapist based in Colliers Wood, South West London, working with women who experience relationship anxiety, social anxiety, and related emotional challenges.

My approach is client led, which means we move at your pace and focus on what feels most important to you. There is no fixed path or pressure to be a certain way. My role is to walk alongside you, guiding you to understand difficult thoughts and feelings, and supporting you to develop healthier ways of thinking, feeling, and relating to yourself and others.

When relationship or social anxiety holds you back, therapy offers a way to build confidence, feel more secure, and connect more deeply with yourself and those around you.

I offer face-to-face counselling sessions in a calm and private garden office located at my home in South West London. The office is accessed via a separate entrance through the side gate, ensuring discretion and privacy. There are no pets on the premises, apart from a few peaceful goldfish in the outdoor pond.

The space includes toilet facilities and has been set up with health and safety in mind to provide a comfortable and welcoming environment.

🚗 Free driveway parking is available for clients
🚶‍♀️ Easily accessible by public transport
🚻 Toilet facilities available

Welcome back! If you’re a returning client, you can book your next session at a time and date that works best for you. Please specify whether you would prefer a face-to-face session or an online appointment when booking on the comment section. Payment can be made at the time of booking to secure your session. If you have any questions or need support with scheduling, feel free to get in touch.

50mins Day Time Session

Mon-Fri 10am – 5pm

£50

50mins Evening Sessions

Mon & Fri 5pm-7pm

£80

Counselling for relationship anxiety in London, Colliers wood, Tooting, South west Wimbledon, Merton, Mitcham, UK, Spini Watts Counselling

Relationship anxiety can manifest as fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, or constant overthinking about your relationship. It can also affect self-esteem and lead to insecurity. It’s important to understand that these feelings are common, and therapy can help address the root causes. Constant worry, self-doubt, and the fear of rejection can leave you feeling disconnected from the people around you. If you find yourself asking, “Do they care about me?” or “Am I enough?” you’re not alone, these are common signs that anxiety is affecting your peace of mind and your connections. Anxiety in relationships can make it hard to feel secure, leading to overthinking, misunderstandings, and unnecessary tension. The constant fear of “messing up” or not meeting expectations can prevent you from fully engaging with others.

Social anxiety is a common condition that can significantly affect daily life. It involves an intense fear of being judged, criticised, or embarrassed in social situations. This fear can make activities such as meeting new people, attending events, speaking in groups, or even making eye contact feel overwhelming and stressful. Many individuals with social anxiety experience low self-esteem, isolation, and challenges in forming or maintaining relationships. Avoiding social situations might seem like the easiest way to cope, but it can lead to increased loneliness and limit personal growth.

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If your relationships are feeling distant or difficult, it’s normal to feel frustrated or unsure of how to make things better. Whether it’s communication problems, misunderstandings, or emotional disconnect, therapy can offer a space to talk things through without judgment. In our sessions, we’ll look at what’s causing the tension and explore how past experiences or patterns might be affecting your relationships. We’ll take things slowly, looking at the emotional needs of both sides, so you can start to rebuild trust, set healthy boundaries, and improve your connection with others.

Therapy for Stress

Stress can feel like it’s always there, whether from work, family, or life in general. It can leave you feeling drained, anxious, or like you’re constantly playing catch-up. In therapy, we’ll take a closer look at where the stress is coming from and how it’s affecting you. We’ll find practical ways to manage it, so it doesn’t control your life. You’ll have space to talk about what’s weighing on you, and we’ll explore ways to regain control, find calm, and start feeling more at ease.

Counselling for Depression

When depression takes hold, it can feel like you're carrying a heavy weight. Sadness, hopelessness, or feeling numb to everything around you can make life feel overwhelming. I’m here to offer a safe, non-judgmental space to explore those emotions. Together, we can talk about what’s behind these feelings and find small steps forward that feel right for you. Therapy is about working at your pace, uncovering what’s causing the pain, and gently guiding you toward a sense of balance and calm.

Grief and Loss Therapy

Grief is a painful journey, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a relationship, or something else important to you. Everyone processes loss differently, but it can often leave you feeling lost, alone, or unsure how to cope. I offer a compassionate, non-judgmental space to talk about your grief at your own pace. Together, we’ll explore your feelings and memories, and find ways to navigate the pain. While grief may never fully go away, in time, we’ll work on finding a way for you to feel more at peace with your loss and create space for healing.

Counselling for Low Self-Esteem

If you struggle with low self-esteem, it can feel like you're always doubting yourself, worrying you're not good enough, or never measuring up. You might find it hard to trust your own decisions or feel like you have to be perfect all the time. These thoughts can really hold you back, making it tough to feel confident or at ease with yourself.

In our work together, we'll explore where these feelings come from and help you start seeing yourself in a kinder, more realistic way. We'll focus on building your confidence step by step, without needing to be perfect. You’ll learn to quiet that inner voice that tells you you’re not enough and replace it with more self-compassion and trust.

We’ll look at how past experiences may have shaped how you see yourself, and we can work together to change the negative patterns that hold you back. Over time, you’ll start to feel more at ease with who you are and more confident in your choices.

Counselling for Emotional Well-being

Sometimes, life just feels too much, and it’s hard to navigate the emotions on your own. Whether it’s day-to-day stress, feelings of overwhelm, or not knowing where to turn, I’m here to listen. Therapy provides a safe, supportive space to talk through what’s on your mind without fear of judgment. We’ll work together at your pace to understand your emotions and what’s affecting your mental well-being. It’s about finding the right path forward for you, at a pace that feels comfortable, with support along the way.

Therapy for Generalised Anxiety

Living with generalized anxiety can feel overwhelming. The constant worrying, even about things that may never happen, can leave you feeling drained and unable to focus on the present moment. The constant cycle of worrying about the future or everyday tasks can make it difficult to focus and enjoy life. One of the first steps in overcoming generalized anxiety is understanding where it’s coming from. Often, anxiety is connected to unconscious feelings or unresolved issues from the past. These can stem from early childhood, relationships, or other past experiences that may be influencing your current anxiety. By gaining insight into these deeper causes, you’ll begin to understand why you feel the way you do and how it affects your everyday life.

Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) involves excessive, uncontrollable worry about a variety of situations or events, even when there is no immediate threat. You might experience:

  • Constant worry about life, work, health, or relationships
  • Physical symptoms like muscle tension, headaches, or fatigue
  • Sleep disturbances, such as trouble falling or staying asleep
  • Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
  • Irritability, restlessness, or a sense of being on edge

Living with generalized anxiety can feel overwhelming. The constant worrying, even about things that may never happen, can leave you feeling drained and unable to focus on the present moment. At Spini Watts Counselling, I offer integrative therapy to help you manage these feelings and gain clarity on your emotions.

My approach combines various therapeutic techniques tailored to your unique needs. Whether you're feeling stuck in a cycle of anxiety or struggling to manage the everyday worries that seem to never end, therapy can help you break free and regain control over your life.

One of the first steps in overcoming generalized anxiety is understanding where it’s coming from. Through integrative therapy, we’ll explore your thoughts, emotions, and past experiences. Often, anxiety is connected to unconscious feelings or unresolved issues from the past. These can stem from early childhood, relationships, or other past experiences that may be influencing your current anxiety. By gaining insight into these deeper causes, you’ll begin to understand why you feel the way you do and how it affects your everyday life.

At the core of our work is supporting you to rebuild confidence and find peace. My goal is to help you feel more in control of your thoughts and emotions, and to gradually reduce the hold anxiety has on your life. Together, we’ll work towards healthier coping mechanisms, more clarity, and ultimately, a greater sense of inner calm and emotional well-being.

Exploring the impact of culture and attachment on your relationships, Spini Watts Counselling , Relationship Therapy for Women across the UK, London, Colliers Wood, Merton, Mitcham, Wimbledon, Tooting

In our counselling work, I welcome the exploration of how your cultural background and attachment style may be influencing your emotional responses and relationships. Together, we’ll examine how cultural expectations and past experiences shape your feelings and behaviours.

By exploring what might be affecting your relationships, we’ll identify patterns linked to cultural influences or attachment dynamics. This deeper understanding will support you in recognising how these factors impact your emotional well-being, helping you navigate them more effectively and build healthier, more fulfilling connections with others.

how mind and body are connected Spini watts counselling and psychotherapy

Your mind and body are closely linked. What happens in your mind, your thoughts, feelings, and stress can directly affect your body. Similarly, the way your body feels can impact your mood and how you think. When you feel stressed or anxious, your body reacts. You might feel tension in your muscles, headaches, or tightness in your chest. These physical symptoms are your body’s way of responding to what’s happening in your mind. At the same time, physical problems or discomfort can also influence how you feel emotionally. This is why taking care of your body can help improve your mental health and vice versa. Your brain and body are constantly sending messages to each other. The more stressed your mind feels, the more your body reacts to that stress.

Not all trauma comes from big, dramatic events like accidents or major losses. Some trauma comes from smaller, everyday experiences that slowly build up over time. These are often called “small t” traumas. They can be things like: Being ignored, constant criticism, feeling dismissed or not listened to, being left out, feeling unwanted or not good enough. On their own, these moments might not seem like a big deal. But when they happen again and again, they can leave emotional wounds that affect how you see yourself and how you relate to others.

For example:
If someone is often criticised, they may start to feel anxious, not good enough, or unsure of themselves, even if no one meant to hurt them. These experiences can quietly shape your confidence, your relationships, and your mental health. Just because they seem “small” doesn’t mean they don’t matter.